I turned 40 in April. A year ago when I turned 39, I didn’t want to carry a child, and I didn’t think we were going to add a person to our family. Sometime during my 39th year, I started thinking I might want another person in our family, and I started considering that maybe I could carry a baby. When I turned 40, I told Kristi I had been thinking that maybe I want another baby. She said she might want to carry her biological embryos. She still has nine embryos from when she did egg retrieval when she was 34 years old.
I wish I had come to this realization a few years ago, so I would feel like there are fewer risks. We have been given lots of fertility options, and we will meet with our doctor in a month or so to go over test results and how to proceed. During our initial consultation, I told our doctor that I will not do egg retrieval or IVF. My options are to do IUI with the same donor sperm we used for Bennett and Brooks or for me to implant Kristi’s biological embryos. The doctor told me that the chance of me getting pregnant and having a healthy baby through IUI at 40 years old is less than 10 percent. The best choice for a healthy pregnancy is for me to implant Kristi’s embryos. The absolute most important thing to me is that we bring the healthiest baby possible into this world. Now we just need to wait and see what the doctor says.